Wednesday, February 7, 2007

fascinating stuff...

The following is what this page is all about: I want to share something that is so near and dear to my heart. About 13 Years ago, I discovered this book. Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin. It changed my life and my outlook on marriage so drastically that I am sure it's one of the main reasons that we are so happily married 15 years later. My copy is dog eared and coffee stained and are falling apart at the seams. It was written in the 60's and some ideas are really old fashioned, but I tell you, certain principles are ageless. More than half of the book is just testimonies of how the principles and application worked their miracles. She states that a woman's job is to shed joy around and cast light on the dark days. She also teaches how a woman's actions can inspire a such an emotion in a man that can cause his heart to ache of love. She calls that celestial love: the highest kind of tender love a man feels for a woman. And know what? Jaku often tells me he loves me so much, his heart is aching. So I know it's true and tested.

So, if your marriage is great, I recommend this book. If your marriage is disastrous, I recommend this book. And if it's anywhere in between, I recommend this book. It's beautiful and inspiring. And totally worth reading.

The journaling form my page reads (most of it from FW) : I love this book. In fact I think that this is, apart from the bible, the most influential book I have ever read. It started more years back than I can remember, probably 12, when I picked it up and it so totally transformed my life and my marriage. Written in 1962, it still to this day and in this modern age define womanhood and the captivating role a woman plays in her man’s life. Because a woman’s heartfelt desire is to be loved and cherished in marriage. I live this with such a passion. My prayer is that I am still the fascinating woman to him that all these years past. Lord, let me be. Let me be a woman with spunk. With fire. I pray that I will be worthy of his celestial love. That his highest kind of tender love will be towards me. I pray that our love will lift us out of the mediocre and will place us on a heavenly plane. I pray that his love for me will be spontaneous, warm and tender. That he will experience such a deep feeling within for me. That it will be intense. That he will be enchanted and fascinated with my human qualities, with a deep desire to protect and shelter me from harm, danger and difficulty. I pray that I will be worthy of this highest kind of love. I pray that my love will awaken his capability to be tender, romantic and adoring. I can only ask that I will become more girlish, tender, sweet. That I will have that sparkle in my eye, smile more, be radiant, and more feminine in my manner. I pray that I will become more and more charming, that I will shed joy around and cast light on the dark days. That I will be the golden thread of our destiny and the very spirit of grace and harmony. I ask that my presence will light our home, that my approach will be cheerful and warm. I ask that my angelic qualities will increase to awaken a feeling of worship in him, that it will bring him peace and happiness. I pray that I will accept him more at face value. That I will appreciate his better side. Admire his manliness. That I will make him (after You Lord) number 1. To let him be the guide, protector and provider. To let him manage the money. I pray that I will be careful not to wound his sensitive manly pride, but be sympathetic and understanding. Oh, Lord, let me be the most fascinating woman to this man that I could possibly be.

Have a great day
Wilna
x

12 comments :

happydays525 said...

Always love a good book recommendation, thanks! Have you ever heard of or read the book titled The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman? It's another good one that you may want to check out!

Also, another beautiful layout Wilna!

Liz Ness said...

Wonderful page, Wilna! I really love that photo of you!

Andrea said...

that sounds like a wonderful book :) tfs!!!

Theresa Tyree said...

Oh My! How do I get my hands on this book? Is it still in publication after so many years?

me..... said...

Hi my friend. Yes that book is exactly as you describe it. It is amazing - even in this day and age of womans rights and....... probably more so 'cos we lost what God intended for us to be in this modern age of materialism where everyone is chasing after the earthly goods which is going to have no heavenly good for us eventually. Relationships is what it is all about. Have an awesome day. Lotsa love. P.S. Haven't started my valentine project yet - got it planned for this weekend.

Alison said...

I am SUCH a fan of your work.
Love, love, love

Jules said...

A friend sent me the link to your site........and I'm so glad she did, love your entry and the book sounds fascinating, must try and get a copy........I hope it isn't out of print, it sounds like a book everyone of us women needs to read - :-)

Laura Williams said...

This is my first visit to your blog and I am very pleasantly surprised. It's said to say...it's not every day that a Christian is so strong and comfortable in their faith to share it as you have on your layout as well as your blog. I applaud you for that as well as to say Thank You for not being ashamed! Also want to say... what beautiful journaling! So heartfelt and is shares your love for your sweet husband as well as your love for our sweet Saviour.

In HIS sweet name,
Laura Williams

Joyous said...

Sounds like a great book, I'll have to see if I can find it. ( I like all that old-fashioned stuff anyway!) :)

lisa stead said...

That looks like a great book! I will have to look for it one of these days!

RN4JCHRIST said...

Re: fascinating womanhood..WOW that books sounds awesome! great layout too, thanks for the recommendation! ~Dawn

Kelleigh said...

Hi Wilna,

I've been searching and searching for blogs about Fascinating Womanhood and have found only a few posts here and there. So suprising considering what a life changing book FW is!

You're post is beautiful and reflects much of my own reaction to Helen Andelin's book.

Blessings,
Kelleigh